Imagine the excitement of beginning a new relationship. Perhaps a mutual friend introduced you, or maybe you have met on a dating website and spent time chatting before actually meeting in person. You have a lot in common, you seem to enjoy one another’s company, either in person or over the phone, and so far things are going well. In most cases, you will gradually learn over time if the two of you are right for each other and the relationship will either progress of fizzle away. But in some cases, the new person you are dating has a lot of surprises you would not normally expect. Most people lead bland, mundane lives. Maybe a credit card bill goes past due or a distant family member found trouble with the law. However, there are people who are a giant disaster waiting to happen, and if you are able to assess the situation before becoming emotionally involved with them, you will be able to better protect yourself. In some cases, you may even get more than emotionally involved and not find out until it is too late to separate yourself from them for many years to come. If your new love interest has worked with a Cincinnati Foreclosure Defense or a Cincinnati OVI attorney, you may soon learn there are a lot of issues that might be tough to deal with in your shared future.
Maybe there was a never a lawyer involved in your new beau’s problems, but there are things that have occurred that may put you or your family in danger. If your gut is telling you something is wrong, listen to it. Some of the kindest people in the world deal with financial issues but few have put their loved ones in danger’s way.
Does your new love interest tend to demand things from you or do they monitor your every move? Are you getting numerous phone calls each day, or are they prying too deeply into your personal life? You may be dealing with someone who has issues with boundaries and control, and relationships like that can get very dangerous, very fast. If something is making you uncomfortable, it needs to be addressed. It may require a slightly uncomfortable conversation, or you may need to end the new relationship before it gets too intense.
Another sign you may have trouble is the unfortunate presence of a jilted ex, either yours or your new love interest’s. If a former flame is hanging on and reluctant to allow either of you to move on, your new relationship may be strained.
It might be better to have some space until things clear up. On the other hand, you are putting your new relationship at risk. If you are seeing someone new, be open and honest with them and hope they do the same.
Connor R. Sullivan recently worked with a Cincinnati foreclosure defense specialist while conducting research for a new article. His son who is a law student had an opportunity to work with a Cincinnati OVI attorney as a summer intern.
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